When is it time to prod someone about what’s going on with them? When is it right to care about what’s going on?
Ever since that incident in college, I’ve decided not to care too much about a person anymore, even if I really wanted to know what’s going on. I went from “I need to know everything, they might be talking stuff behind my back” to “Minding my own business, and no they’re not talking about me” in a couple of years. It made sense, and it was somewhat the right thing to do. If it’s not for me to know, then it’s not, I respect that. If I’m not invited, that’s okay too. Not to meddle in their lives, to let them be, not to say something bad about people, not to gossip.
Not to concern myself with people and their issues, just live and deal with my own. Not to involve myself too much with a person.
(Huwag paikutin sa isa, dalawa, tatlong tao ang mundo. Because it’ll really hurt if they leave.)
But then I start to wonder if doing so, am I isolating myself? Am I becoming that person who just doesn’t care?
Not meddling with people’s affairs has it advantages. You don’t get stressed. You don’t deal with unnecessary conflict. You’re not in the know but you’re probably better off not knowing anyway. You’re viewed as the neutral entity, the person anyone can talk to. You’re not prone to saying bad things about a person. It’s liberating.
But then it can really be isolating at times. You’d just look like the person who just doesn’t care. Not one of us.
Which returns me to the original question.